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The Bisexual Resource Center’s Big Bi+ Joy Survey: What’s your favorite thing about being Bi+?

Edited by Darren Bouwmeester

During Pride 2026, the Bisexual Resource Center is leaning into Bi+ joy and the diversity of our community while amplifying bisexual voices. 

In that spirit, we created a survey asking you to share your experience as Bi+ people. Throughout Pride season, we are publishing selected responses  that highlight what makes this community so wonderful.

In the first article of this series, community members reflected on what Pride means to them.  Their responses remind us that as much as Pride is a protest, it’s also about being visible and taking up space. Pride is about community, self love and authenticity.

For the second installment, we turn to a different question: What’s your favorite thing about being Bi+?

Through a rich tapestry of responses, bisexuals from around the world share how being Bi+ is a source of joy and celebration.

What’s your favorite thing about being Bi+?

In sharing the survey responses, we have organized them around themes.

The freedom to express fluidity and break out of the binary

I think being bi helps me think in a less binary sense about other things. I think it opens up my world to more possibilities. If I don’t have to be just gay or just straight, what other things are possible? 

Justine C., (she, her), Missouri

How my sexuality doesn’t have one specific definition, we have a spectrum and each different Bi+ sexuality has a different definition and even then we can still go outside that

A.L., (they, them), No Location Given

Having options! The freedom of who and what I can be

Anonymous, (she, her), California

Not feeling unilaterally defined by labels, genders, or expressions of love 

Alyssa, (they, them), Massachusetts

I see all kinds of love, not only romantic love, in a different way. Knowing I’m fluid in my romantic life has opened my eyes to just how fluid life in general is, and to the ways I can let that fluidity into other aspects of my life.

Julia Barnes-Brown, (she, her), Massachusetts

The opportunity to love and appreciate beauty regardless of gender

Being able to enjoy meaningful emotional and physical connection with a whole person, enjoy and embrace the differences in the connection with men vs women 

Anonymous, (she/her), New York

Just loving people for who they are as humans, regardless of any other specifics or labels 

Leo, (she, they), Portugal

Everyone is hot, to some degree. You get what it is to pursue and be pursued. You can see the beauty in your own body. 

Sean, (he, him), Canada

I love that I have had a range of sexual and romantic relationships and experiences with people of all genders and I am not bound by anyone’s or society’s expectations about who I should be or who I should be in relation with. 

H. Stewart, she, they), Oklahoma

Loving everyone regardless of who they are or how they act, I would love it more if we were accepted more within the communities we should be a part of 

Anonymous, (he, him), New Zealand

Breaking the rules imposed by society

That rules don’t apply: if I want to be pretty, I get to, whoever I’m attracted to, it fits.

Lee, (he,him/ki,kin), Massachusetts

No rules! I reject and resist all the boxes and categories that society tries to force me into.

My Queer Little Self, United States

My favorite thing about being bi is the freedom that comes from being drawn to people of more than just one gender. I like the way that being bi has radical potential to dismantle oppressive binary systems. And my favorite colors have always been pink, purple, and blue (in that order!) so I absolutely love the Bi Pride flag, also. I love how expansive and inclusive bisexuality is, too. 

Gia S., (she, her), New England

Not being in a box and fitting into societal norms. I have forced myself, uncomfortably so, into these boxes all my life. Being Bi+ has allowed me to open up to all possibilities and makes me finally feel like myself.

Wes Brazwell, (he, him), Pennsylvania

My ability to explore and exist without feeling forced into a box. I can be with whoever I want to be regardless of gender.

Paulina, (she, her), California

The opportunity to be my true self

Being comfortable with it, in fact embracing it to the point I wouldn’t change it if I could. T(ook) a long time to get here. 

Mike H., (he, him), Timaru New Zealand

Just that it’s me and feels so authentically me! I feel like having the privilege of being able to share that I am bi allows me to feel so close to my authentic self.

Anonymous, No Location Given

Everything. Just finally able to be “me” and not be ashamed to be who I am and have always been.

Alex D., (she, her), Oregon

Just being me and not pretending to be someone else. I love being BI its who I am.

Geebs 67, (he, him), United Kingdom

I feel like accepting that I was bi at a later age taught me a lot about letting go of who people think I am or should be. I decided to dive into who I am at my core. So my favorite part of being bi is acknowledging that I’m different but that’s great because we’re all different. It makes me just want to be the me-est version of me I can be. 

Sarah B., (she, her), Virginia

The opportunity to explore

That love is more than people (gender), it’s about connection. I know that every sexuality can be aware of this, but I just understand more about love after finding out my own sexuality. When I looked at myself and [say] “oh,I’m a bisexual person”, everything changes. All my interactions make more sense, because now I know more about me, a significant part of me. And I’m not talking only about romantic love, but love in a general way. I think it’s about freedom too, like, we are more than everyone wants to say to us. I think it’s beautiful, oh, of course! Being Bi+ it’s beautiful too, it’s one of my favorite parts (also, we can admire more people’s)

Anonymous, No Location Given

The potential. While static in many aspects of life, the open possibilities as a Bi person keeps more potential things available for the future. 

A.L., (he, him), New Hampshire

Exploration of my full humanity in a world where humanity is typically constrained, controlled and dictated.

Thomas Knoll, (he, him), Bali, Indonesia

Being out as bi+ allowed me to explore other parts of my identity and now I feel more myself than I ever have. 

Kay S, (they, them), Pennsylvania

My favorite thing about coming out 10 years ago as pansexual is that what I thought was a destination was actually just the beginning of a beautiful journey. I naively believed that coming out was a one-and-done experience, and so I invested (or wasted) far too much time and stress preparing for it. Instead, coming out (the first time) was merely my first step on an evolving path of self-discovery and self-empowerment. Coming out as pansexual allowed me to come out as gender-unregulated, and who knows what’s next in my adventure? We don’t come out of a closet into an empty room with no doors. We come out into a WORLD to explore. 

Kent L., (they, xe), California

It has changed the way I see the world

I love that my same sex attraction has taken me to new depths in my hetero marriage, and to experiences that I cherish deeply. Bailey has also taught me that as a bi person I am more capable of nuance and gradation in all of my relationships, from platonic to romantic.

Anonymous, (she, her), No Location Given

I see beauty in the complexity of life. I’m free of the this-or-that mentality that constrains others. Beauty is in the messy middle. 

Andy T. (he, him), Colorado

We have the best colors! And I think just the ability to see things in this incredibly nuanced way. My worldview has shifted in ways I did not expect since being honest with myself about being Bi+. For example, the ways I’ve even changed my approach with talking to patients about their sexual identity has evolved for the best. That’s a simple example. But this has grown into so many other facets of my life. 

Anonymous, No Location Given

Having an open mind & heart so I can accept others as they are & hopefully find others who feel the same. It’s vital for my sanity to find like minded non-judgmental people because I’m a tiny blue dot trapped in the red sea of rabid republicans.

Karri Watson, (she, her), TN

Bisexuality is the nuance, the non-conformative, the unexpected. The neither here nor there, the I won’t be what you think, because I am more than just one side or the other. 

Carolina, (she, her), Germany

It’s Fun!!

It’s the puns bi far

E.C., (she, her), No Location Given

I feel a lot of joy and possibility – I live beyond the limitation that many feel constrained by

Rob A., (any), Massachusetts

Being something of a chameleon in various circles. I love that I can fit into multiple spaces and surprise people when they make assumptions about me. Also it’s the perfect excuse to always cuff my jeans.

Laura Days, (she, her), Massachusetts

Being able to share fictional crushes with my boyfriend

Joc J. (any), Oregon

The sense of appreciation for human beauty and attractiveness (not always the same thing) across a wide spectrum. Plus, I love Bi+ aesthetic and quirky humor.

Francesca, (she, her), New York

What’s not to love? Our flag has the best colors. Honestly, being attracted to more than one gender is pretty amazing. 

E.D.H., (they, them), No Location Given

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If you would like to share your own responses to the Bi+ Joy Survey, it’s not too late! You can share your thoughts here, and stay tuned in the coming weeks as we share more thoughtful and moving responses from our beautiful community.