For me the answer about what to do ended up being the same as for any new parenting topic: google around, get some information, talk to trusted people, and figure out what works for our family. We had some short conversations reviewing consent, staying physically and sexually safe, and how to handle hurtful comments or prying questions. I made space for them to talk while I only listened. We promised to never out them without their permission. I offered to tell Grandma if they wanted me to. Your approach will vary depending on your kid’s age and your parenting style, but I recommend starting from love and respect, and then taking one step at a time. It doesn’t matter what size your steps are or how fast you take them.
Now three years later, we’ve navigated a lot of the awkward stuff but I am still learning. We share funny bi or pan memes with each other and sometimes I have to ask for an explanation. And *sigh* I always need reminders for where to look to see a shared post on Instagram. We also watch some of the great inclusive animated series that are out now. Steven Universe and the new She-Ra are our favorites. My kid was impressed when I identified Huntara’s voice actor in She-Ra as Geena Davis. When Catra’s Double Trouble appeared, I was excited to point out that I noticed they used non-binary pronouns. My kid turned to me, smiled, and said “I KNOW! Isn’t it great?”
