You are the holder of your own desire, your own pleasure and your own peace. Allow them to flow freely, in whichever directions they pull, so long as you do it with love, with respect, with intention–so long as you are willing to live, to learn, and to grow into the person you are meant to become and the relationships you are meant to share.
Also, be mindful of false justifications. You do not have to justify your existence or your identity by buying into traditional notions of monogamy, family, or normative ways of doing/having sex. You are free to exist and to explore as you truly are– experienced or new, vanilla or kink, poly or not, silly or sweet—as long as it’s safe and consensual.
Wait a while before you identify as anything. Most people tend to experiment in college or even later than that. The teenage years are full of “phases.” For example, I went through the “gay” phase during my high schools years, before I found out I was bisexual in college. Also, to fully educate and understand yourself, you could read books about bisexuality (Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life, is an excellent one) and do some research online, a little study on sexuality does benefit youth. LOL!
I’m 12 years old and i came out to my friends last year. I came out to my mom too but she said she didn’t believe me and told me, “People come out with their sexuality when they’re 18 or older.” My friends took it really well, even my most seemingly homophobic friend.
Be confident in yourself, you are the only one who knows your own true sexuality. Others will try to tell you differently, but don’t listen to them, be proud of what you know you are and don’t shy away from it.
There’s nothing wrong with you. You don’t have to choose one side, straight or gay. Bi isn’t a phase and you’re attracted to whomever you’re attracted to, there’s no changing that.
Be who you are! Embrace your true self. Even when/if people put you down, they only do so because they don’t understand. (Generally, hate is ignorance.) So stand up tall, and believe in yourself. It can be hard, but in the end it will be worth it because in some way your interactions with others will have changed their perspective.
Remember that your sexuality is more fluid than society would lead you to think. Just as it can be hard for a person raised in a hetero-normative culture to acknowledge same-sex attractions, it can also be hard for a queer-identified person to acknowledge opposite-sex attractions. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, force you into a box or deny the validity of your feelings. Being queer doesn’t mean being gay 100% of the time. It’s about the identity you choose, the community you have, and how you see the world.
There’s nothing wrong with you. Your sexuality is fluid. However long or short a time it takes to get there, embrace the path to finding just who you are and the perfect way to identify and express yourself as such. Be safe, be true to yourself, live and love with all your heart.
The worst thing you could do is to be ashamed of yourself for the way that you personally feel. Don’t let the opinions of others define you for something that you might not be. Above all, live your life from your own heart.
Even if it should actually turn out to be just a phase, which might or might not be the case, it doesn’t matter. Who you are right now, and the things you desire right now, are absolutely fine and okay and much more normal than you could possibly imagine.
You don’t have to decide if you’re bi or not. That decision can be made later. Just live and life will tell you.
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.