Edited by Darren Bouwmeester
During Pride 2026, the Bisexual Resource Center is leaning into Bi+ joy and the diversity of our community while amplifying bisexual voices.
In that spirit, we created a survey asking you to share your experience as Bi+ people. Throughout Pride season, we are publishing selected responses that highlight what makes this community so wonderful.
As we’ve published these responses, we hope that you, our readers, have found inspiration, joy and hope in them. One of the benefits of being part of a diverse and vibrant community is the opportunity to learn from one another.
For this the third installment in our series, we asked where you find community as a Bi+ person.
Looking through the responses, it is clear that finding community remains a challenge for many Bi+ people. More than a few respondents indicated that “It’s hard, [I] haven’t really found it yet.”
The responses also show that Bi+ people have found community in many different places. For more information on how and where Bi+ people can find each other, please go to the Bisexual Resource Center’s Find Bi/Queer Resources Page.
Where do you find community as a Bi+ person?
In sharing the survey responses, we have organized them around themes. We have also included hyperlinks for the organizations specifically mentioned.
Finding Community Can Be Challenging
This is a really difficult one. There is a queer art group that runs once per year, but otherwise it’s hard to find kindreds. I have one friend who is bi who lives 6 hours away. Thank goodness for the phone!
Anonymous, No Location Given
I never found it, actually. like, I’m a teenager in Brazil, I guess we don’t have the LGBT groups as USA does, so it’s hard to find. I can say that my community it’s my friends, my bisexual (and not bi+) friends. Also, I like to read and to stay connected with pages like this, to read more about my community. I found I was bi at 13, I’m 17, and only now that I have a kind of courage and an urgency to be more close to my people.
Anonymous, No Location Given
Queer Friends and Local LGBTQ Community
I feel a lot of community at Pride. I also feel a lot of community at gay bars. I live in a rural area so there’s less obvious community in my community, but I have LGBTQ+ friends and they are my community as well.
Sarah B., (she, her), Virginia
I find queer community in the organization I work for. The social groups I’m a part of and also run. The events I attend and places I visit. Unfortunately I don’t have any in person Bi community but do belong to online groups and follow podcasts that are specifically Bi+
Jim Johnson, (he, him), Illinois
In my friends and the communities around me. Especially my gorgeously queer choir – The Groove Chorus (house of Ariana).
Libby Sharland, (she, her), London, United Kingdom
Queer events and spaces HAVE to include and embrace bi+ people! I have met some of my closest friends with varying ways of being queer through my engagement in queer events and spaces, and these friends have helped my own process of self-discovery and embracing my gender and sexuality.
H. Stewart, (she, they), Oklahoma
I find community through a few close friends who are also bi and through writing for Bi Women Quarterly. I prefer to be out only to a select a few close people in my life, like my fiancé and best friends. So that can be a little lonely sometimes, but I find a lot of joy in my own self-understanding and identity as a bi person.
Gia S., (she, her), New England
Online Communities and Podcasts
The more open I have become about my identity, the more Bi+ people have shown up! I do find community in pockets of my queer workplace and that is slowly getting easier. I also find community in the Bisexual Killjoy community and Discord. I am not really in any other online space that consistently, so I know this one is special. I really value the podcast and the conversations happening between folks there. It is way outside my comfort zone to join these online chat spaces & yet, I keep coming back!
Anonymous, No Location Given
Online, United Kingdom online bi events, Give it to Me Bi podcast
O, (she, her), United Kingdom
Daily, I enjoy community on Instagram and Discord. Those spaces allow me to know what’s going on locally, too, so I can go to in-person events, meet people, and enjoy community that way. I have tried so many new things by hearing about something and just showing up.
Kay S., (they, them), Pennsylvania
Online Facebook groups are my biggest source of bi+ community. There is a small local group of bi+ men that meets monthly. If I step away from a purely bi+ community perspective, my wife and I participate in a Pride fan group for a local sports team. Most of the members are gay men, but they welcome all, and have been very accepting of me and my wife (who identifies as a cishet ally.)
Andy T., (he, him), Colorado
Online, both gladly and sadly: Many kind and accepting queer friends, but I feel like I’m speaking over their experiences in sharing my own.
Sean, (he, him), Canada
Local Community Organizations
Both within organized groups like Bisexual Resource Center and reaching out to people. Actually the sapphic dating apps are great for finding friends – I have made so many bi+ women friends that way
Beth R., (she, her), Massachusetts
I’m still figuring it out, honestly. But discovering the Bisexual Resource Center has been a huge help! I’ve discovered the bi(in)visibility group as well as AmBi through them.
Julia Barnes-Brown, (she, her), Massachusetts
The Bisexual Organizing Project helped me get my feet on the ground and being fully out has made me realize there are bi people all around me.
Todd Krueger, (he, him), Minnesota
As someone newly coming out and accepting my bisexuality, especially on the MLM side of it, I’m still trying to figure that out. It has been a bit lonely so far, but there is a tolerant and welcoming community in Madison, WI, near where live, that offers the chance to join subgroups with Bi+ individuals and make new acquaintances. I look forward to immersing myself in that.
Fred H. (he, him), Wisconsin
Meetups, Activist and Affinity Groups
Having problems in this regard – LGBT affinity groups / LGBT volunteer opportunities
Lee, (he,him/ki,kin), Massachusetts
I find community with other bi+ people mostly in activist spaces. I also started a bi+ focused booth at my local community Pride celebration through which I met some more bi+ folks locally.
Justine C., (she, her), Missouri
We have a vibrant bi/pan/queer group at our local center. I also use Meetup and Discord to find local groups and activities in my area. We have hikes, walks, brunch, picnics, parties and hang outs. There are plenty of Bi+ people around you just need to put in a little work to create the connections.
Wes Brazwell, (he, him), Pennsylvania
Affirming Faith Communities
At my church. My church is affirming and RiC affiliated. Along with my husband, children and close friend group. I have not come out in public as of yet.
Anonymous, (she, her)
I find community among local queer friends whom I deeply love and who deeply love me. And I have also found amazing community in online groups organized by SAGE and Robert Brooks Cohen (Two Bi Guys podcast). And I find community in my church as an out bi+ deacon & teacher of queer theology.
My Queer Self, United States
Community in Many Forms
These days, mostly through reading the memoirs and biographies of other LGBTQIA+ leaders and role models. Discovering and remembering the depth and breadth of our history and community, across generations and around the world. We glitter because our predecessors fought for that gift.
Kent, (they/xe), California
With like minded souls and people who inspire me.
Geebs 67, (he, him), United Kingdom
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If you would like to share your own responses to the Bi+ Joy Survey, it’s not too late! You can share your thoughts here, and stay tuned in the coming weeks as we share more thoughtful and moving responses from our beautiful community.